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Stephen
26 January 2012 @ 01:51 pm
...and I have a website now:

http://stephengrahamking.com
 
 
Stephen
26 January 2012 @ 01:45 pm
So, yeah, I'm like the worst LJ friend ever.  I have been reading even though I haven't been posting

Life has been nice and quiet and mellow. No men, which is all right. But work is good and challenging in new ways.

And my novel, Chasing Cold, is finally coming out. In April. Hardcover, Trade paper, Kindle, Nook and Kobo.

Having a launch party on the fourteenth of April if you're going to be in the Toronto area.
 
 
Stephen
09 March 2011 @ 04:21 pm
...when people get into relationships and ditch their friends?
 
 
Stephen
09 March 2011 @ 02:37 pm
"Listen, you know what they say when you get lost in the woods? If you stay put, stay in one place and don't wander, they'll find you. And I was just hoping you'd let yourself be found this time. I was hoping you'd let us find you. But you keep wandering and we can't."  Grace Cornwell - Big Eden
 
 
 
 
Stephen
04 March 2011 @ 11:14 pm
 Follow up question to How are you?: What could change to make your answer be "doing great"?

Hmmm. There are a couple of things that, I think, would upgrade things to great.

I would like some more solidity to the plans for the novel. It's all a bit hazy right now and I'd like to nail some things down. It would make it all feel more real to me, like I've actually accomplished something that's been on my list for a very long time. 

I'd like to be in a good relationship with someone who gets me, someone I can relate to and who's willing to give it a go and actually tell me so. Sometimes, it's a pain being the single one amongst a cabal of couples. They do things with each other, because that dynamic is familiar to them. I miss having a confidante, a playmate, a partner in metaphorical crime. 

And I wish I could find a fantastic apartment in my neighbourhood that I could afford on my own. I have a great apartment, but I can't afford it without a roommate. I'd kind of like to live alone again, but I won't make the change unless something fantastic shows up.

I'd like to be out of debt. I'm almost there, but all the while it's hanging over me, the possibility of losing control of it again. 

I think my "doing well" is actually pretty close to "doing great" I'm just hesitant to tempt fate and describe things in too glowing terms. Smells too much like hubris
 
 
Stephen
04 March 2011 @ 08:41 am
How are you?

I am doing well. My oncologist graduated me a couple of weeks ago. I don't have to go back to see him any more. I guess I'm officially cured as far as he's concerned. Which feels pretty damned good.

My life has been very ordinary, which is, in part, why I don't post all that much. I feel like I'm pretty dull these days. I work, I go home and eat and watch TV and chat with boys and date sometimes. I hang out with friends. It all feels very run of the mill and I like that. After so much time in high drama and chaos, and then dealing with all the aftermath of high drama and chaos, it's good to feel boring. To feel ordinary.

I'm working on a new novel, just finished a first chapter and have an outline. Slow going, but I remind myself that the last one was the same way. Took a long time to find the groove, but when I did, it just flew out of me. I'm assuming that will happen again, if I clear the way and let it happen.

So, yeah. I'm doing well
 
 
Stephen
03 March 2011 @ 02:00 pm
How would you say that being a cancer survivor has changed you most emotionally/mentally?

I think it... brought me into focus, for want of a better term. I'm realizing I was probably always strong, I just never realized it until I had to.

It made me appreciate my life more, inhabit it more. I've always been pretty determined to live in the moments of my life, to be glad of what I have and not worry too much about what I don't have. But I'm much more committed, I think.

I think I'm brave, less worried about what people think or of being rejected. I'm more willing to be myself

But I think it's also made me harder, less accessible. I have much less patience with people whose problems seem minor in comparison. It's something I'm working on
 
 
Stephen
03 March 2011 @ 01:52 pm
What's your favourite memory of your youth?

I honestly never know how to answer "what's your favourite____?" questions. There are always so many ______s that I like for different reasons. I can give you some things that stand out. That I remember even now after so many years and my chemobrain addled memories.

The red vinyl interior of the car I rode in to my oldest sister's first wedding when I was 3. The sailor suit I wore.

Going skating with a friend of my middle sister, I have no idea why. The little red matchbox VW she bought me.

The Batmobile I got for a birthday.

The time the youngest of my three sisters startled our beagle, Gus, out of a sleep and he bit her nose.

My red bike with the sparkly banana seat.

How my parents would never let me see the closing credits for Star Trek, because they were sure one of the alien faces would terrify me. And how it had no effect at all when I finally saw it.
 
 
Stephen
03 March 2011 @ 12:20 pm
So... Um.... Yeah. I know you've all forgotten me and stuff, but I'm in for the question thing

Comments will be screened and questions anonymous

This should get me off me arse and writing stuff here again